Happiness is …
By Daryl L. Meyers
… a choice. Sounds strange, doesn’t it. But it’s true. Happiness IS a choice. It’s not some magical experience that unexpectedly “happens” to us somewhere along the way, nor is it determined by where we live, our culture, or our family heritage.
As children (and often as adults) we imagine a life that arranges itself in line with our needs or desires, but things don’t always work out according to our plans. In fact seldom do they, nor do others always agree with our wishes or demands.
We may have some great relationships, but there will also be times of disagreement and disappointment. Listening to others who care is wise, but allowing their opinions to control how we live and the decisions we make is not.
Life happens the way it happens and it’s up to us to decide how to relate to the experiences we go through. If we see circumstances or events as undermining or offensive, our happiness will disappear like mist before the morning sun.
All of us must make choices. We can fight or accept what comes our way … become better or bitter. It’s up to us. By resisting or fighting “what is,” we disempower ourselves, for … “what is … IS.” … and there’s nothing we can do about it. It’s already here. It’s already happened. Our job is not to try and change whatever’s occurred (that would be impossible), but to accept.
Although we may not be consciously aware, on some level we call to ourselves people and situations that help move us from who we think we are, to who we really are. We begin to understand a universal truth. Life doesn’t happen “to us” but “through us.” This process is gradual, ongoing and constant. How we relate to what we go through determines the measure of joy and happiness we experience.
When we embrace the darkness as well as the light; when we see the gift in every experience, regardless of the forms in which they come, we will know that all things do work together for our good. It is then, regardless of how difficult or challenging the way, that happiness will no longer be a fleeting experience, determined by whim or circumstance, or the opinions and actions of others, but will always be … all ways… a choice.